Book recommendation was given to me during training on relationships.
Chapman writes this book directed at couples whom are struggling to speak to each other’s ‘love language’.
Chapmans background is a marriage counsellor and a relationship speaker. His book contains real life stories about the couples he has helped to rekindle the expressions of love.
Chapman starts the book explaining the phenomenon of obsessional love (honeymoon period) and what usually happens after this phase dies down.
Chapman explains, he has mainly come across 5 different love languages that people speak primarily in their relationships. Both of the individuals in the relationship may speak different love languages (expressions of their affection) and that may be the reason why someone may feel undervalued. He talks about each person having a ‘love tank’ that needs filling with the love that they need in the language they most appreciate.
The five languages are:
Words of affirmation
Acts of service
Receiving gifts
Quality time
Physical touch
There are chapters explaining each of these and how they might present.
At the end of the book, there is a short quiz for you and you partner to score which of these languages of how you primarily want to be shown affection.
This is book has relatively short chapters and many real life examples. The author writes well with no jargon. The quiz is the most important part to partake in, and i would recommend taking this first and reading the chapters most significant to you and your partner.
Overall pretty easy read, and can be dipped in and out of if you wanted. However this book is not a fix for couples who have real underlying problems in their relationship which need addressing. This information in this book is pretty common sense once you have completed the quiz And found out how your partner wants you to show them that you love them.
I would reccomend this book for clients who are wanting to show and receive affection more in their relationship and are willing to work on it. However instead of buying the full book, you can find the online quiz at his website by searching the 5 love languages.
3/5
Charli Davies
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